I’m prepared for some flack on this post, but I think it’s an important message. Some of you may find it offensive, some interesting. What kind of blogger would I be though if I didn’t lay it on the line…
I got very sick in October 2019. I struggle a lot with sleeping disorders. My body cratered in October and I hit a low I’ve never experienced. Thankfully, with help from top doctors and a loving family I was able to recover pretty quickly.
After finally getting better my husband and I went on a date to regroup. In an effort to start making good changes to keep me on the road to feeling better, he asked me what fuels my soul and what I felt may be missing in life.
My husband is the most amazing man on the planet. No one has ever loved me as he does. I always have his full attention, his primary concern is always mine and our children’s well-being, and he treats me with a calm and nurturing way. There’s no yelling in our marriage. Arguing? Sure. But he’s always respectful. How I managed to get him will always make me wonder. I’m damned lucky. He’s also the most interesting person (forget man – literally person) I’ve ever met. I fell in love with his way of thinking, loving people, and being present with those he loves. Within our relationship, I’m the weak link. He’s the kind of person I wish I could be.
When he asked me this question my immediate reply was “Travel. I miss traveling. We have everything else I could dream of wanting.”
Babies Having Babies
We were 26 years old when we got married. We had our first baby when I was 28. We were babies.
Before having children, I was one independent chick. I have an “I got it – don’t worry about me” mentality in life. If there’s a will, there’s a way, is how I’ve lived my life. I don’t see constraints – I only see challenges I need to work around. 😉
Before having our beautiful daughter, I worked in National Advertising for AT&T and traveled quite a bit. I loved the independence of seeing new things, meeting new people, freeing my mind from the everyday. Being alone with my thoughts is totally cool with me.
When our daughter was born, I quit working to stay home with her. That was always an agreement my husband and I had – he was always on board with me staying home and I felt lucky because I saw being able to do so as a gift.
But staying home meant giving up some freedom I was used to having. All of my friends worked, so it was a bit of a lonely life for me. I didn’t adjust as easily as I thought I would.
My husband made some career changes very early on in our parenthood journey. These changes ultimately being life-changing in the greatest way, but the first few years were really, really, really hard.
Any form of travel or “extras” in life went out the door for financial reasons. After a few years, we recovered financially. And then, surprise! Identical twins!
Do you know how hard it is to find someone to babysit a 3-year-old and newborn twins? I’ll tell you – impossible.
So, the traveling continued to be a hiatus. Fast forward through a few major life changes, years of adjusting, wonderful gifts, and adventures. But I couldn’t conquer some health issues I’m genetically predisposed to and had to deal with. Which brings me to October 2019 and my husband’s question.
“Travel. I want to travel.”
Best Laid Plans
When I told him about my want to travel during our 2019 talk, he was fully on board. Our kids were at a perfect age – 12 and 9 respectively, we had the means, he has hit a point in his career where he can work remotely and take more time off, and I was feeling better and ready to pack the suitcase and go! Travel Trends 2020 was looking like overseas was the place to be. I quickly booked two international trips for our family. I had itineraries planned, hotels booked, airfare settled, the works. This post may have been the beginning of an international travel blog.
Wha wha…. Lol. Jokes on me! Girl, you ain’t going nowhere!
Thinking (way) Outside the Box
We are now nearly four months into the new world order. We have a closed national border, states shuttered, restrictions and a fear of, well, everything. The world is closed for business. Or, is it????
Remember my default school of thought: where there’s a will there’s a way?
Our school system in Atlanta is a mess. It’s a mess everywhere actually. You know this. I don’t need to tell you this.
My brain started churning. Perhaps this new world didn’t have to be a punishment, so much as an opportunity to live differently.
Nothing had changed in our situation. Our kids are still a great age, my husband can work remotely, and we still have the means. The only difference is we can’t go where we want or maybe do all we want.
But we can still live.
So what are the new Travel Trends 2020 has to offer? I’ve spent the past six weeks putting into plan an entirely new way of living just for the fall. We pulled our kids out of school and have filed for homeschool status. I’ve hired private teachers to ensure that not only do they not fall behind, but maybe, even thrive and have the undivided attention of a great teacher to work on their weaknesses, and further develop their strengths.
And throughout all of this, we will live off the grid traveling to as many places as the virus will allow.
Yes, we plan on flying. Yes, we plan on exploring hotel life. Yes, we will also rent houses. Yes, we may road trip.
Yes, the virus could catch up to us.
But we will do everything within our power to be safe, but be together as a family living the best damn few months we can muster.
And if we are home, then we are home as a family hanging in, learning, trying to have some semblance of a normal, social, happy life. But when we can… we will go see, go do, go learn, go love, go have fun, and go live as a family.
Travel trends 2020 may be different, but we will be nimble and adjust. I’ll be updating this travel blog as I begin this adventure. Maybe the jokes on me. Maybe we aren’t going anywhere but at our home. Maybe this travel blog is a one (post) and done as we realize this was a bad idea. Maybe we get sick (God forbid.) Or maybe this is a time period in life we’ll always look back on as a “Wow. We did that and how amazing was it” timeframe. Time will tell.
In the meantime, look for travel blog posts about what it was like flying for the first time in a pandemic. What it was like visiting a hotel, a state park, a restaurant, the works.
I understand fully if you disagree with my school of thought. Please just know that I love my family more than anything and my husband and I will do everything in our power to protect them, love them, but not just survive this pandemic, survive it happily, and as a family making memories.
Never in my life would I want to harm my family, extended family, friends, neighbors, anyone. We will be masked up, take tests, quarantine and be safe.
In the meantime, we are off to Wyoming in the not so distant future. It’s time to fuel my soul and show my kids that where there’s a will, there’s a way…
I’ll keep you posted via a new travel blog series. Please keep us in your thoughts and wish us well. In the meantime, stay up to date on this travel blog with our travels by getting the newsletter.