depression – what are you doing about it?

depression – what are you doing about it?

my thoughts on social media and depression

I woke up this morning after some very vivid dreams with words just fighting to get out of my brain and onto this blog. That happens to me on occasion, so I go with it. Truth be told, I type and then hit “publish.” I know I should wait a day and come back to edit it for clarity but I don’t. I furiously type and send out into the universe! Today I want to talk about social media and depression. And more than that, social media and self esteem issues. Super uplifting, right?!

Transparency is key in my life. It’s key with my family, my friends and with you as my readers. Blogs are funny things because you only get to know me through photos. It’s all a perception. I guess life is that way. They say first impressions last. I sort of hate that because people’s first impression of me usually doesn’t end up being their final one. Ask any of my good friends. Usually they  tell me they either didn’t like me, didn’t get me or were confused by me until we had a really good talk! Then after that it became pretty clear their first impression was wrong and I’m just as lost as they are, a giant dork but I’m trying my best.

Here’s what I want you to know about me – I’m the girl most people immediately meet and usually aren’t too keen on. I can come across as guarded or way too straight forward. I share a lot and share it quickly which can overwhelm some people. Or I’m the girl people quickly judge as someone whose led a perfect life therefore they don’t like me – ha! That second part can’t be helped. That’s on you if you judge a book by it’s cover.

I am not the funny girl you call for a giant night of laughs. 🙂 Despite the pics I’m not the life of the party friend. But girl I’ll meet you on that dance floor when Whitney Houston comes on and we-will-shake-our-shit.

Why am I telling you all of this? Because I just read this article on the current state of depression, social media and self esteem and how social media and depression are deeply connected. The focus of the article is why being told to be happy or comparing ourselves to others is impeding our own happiness.

social media and self esteem

I can’t help but look inward and say “I”m not helping this social media and self esteem issue by posting all happy, perfect, pretty!” I wanted to share with you all that I have gone through a journey of depression, and still to this day take anti-anxiety medicine that helps me tremendously.

HOWEVER. And a big however here. I have zero patience for complainers. Zero tolerance for whiners. You don’t like your life? How are you changing it? Don’t like how you look? What are you doing about it? Don’t have friends? Go make some. Have no time? CREATE IT. Or deal with the few minutes you do have, accept it and make the most of them.

Ladies, we have so much power and so much control over ourselves. Look inward. I am forever looking inward (I am my biggest critic – ask my husband because it infuriates him how much I let others control my mental state) but through therapy, through long dates where I just talk and he listens or as I write in this blog I realize I’m the one responsible for my life. Me. Therefore YOU are too.

I’m blabbering I know. Here’s the bottom line – so much of life is a sham. The perfect house, the perfect kids, the perfect vacation – sham. My Dad once told me “no matter where you go, there you are.” You can’t be happy in that house, with those kids and on that vacation if you aren’t happy with yourself.

So, what are you going to do about it? How is social media and depression effecting you and what are you doing to fight it? I have my own plan (and this blog plays a giant part in it.) What’s yours?

I hope today you begin to look inward and not outward to others for why they “appear” to have it easier. Make your life your own best life. You deserve it. I send love and strength to you all.

Social media and Depression. What are you doing about your own depression? Kelly Page in a light pink maxi dress on the beach.

photo by Folk House Creative

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6 Comments

  1. karen
    June 17, 2017 / 1:31 am

    Kelly, again thank you for your complete honesty and openness. It is what drew me to your blog in the first place, and with posts like this, continues to show us just how “real” you truly are. Thank you for that. Sending joy and strength back to you and wishing you a wonderful summer!!

    • Kelly June 19, 2017 / 8:54 pm

      Karen, thank you. I love sharing and wish more people shared their story. We could all live a little easier knowing we aren’t alone. Thank you for following, I hope you’ll help spread the word of my blog! xo, kelly

  2. Mary
    June 24, 2017 / 1:51 am

    Thanks for sharing this, Kelly. I have never had patience for whiners or complainers either. I always tell my kids and friends that it’s their and my choice on how we view our lives. I choose joy everyday. It really is a choice and although it’s easy to do when everything in life is going well, It’s even more of a victory when things are going wrong. I also struggle with depression after an accident and through all the tests, surgeries, and doctors, I can still find ways to celebrate the good in life and the lessons I am learning through and because of my injuries. Something as simple as getting out of bed is a victory for me. It’s all about attitude and perception. I wish you small and big victories. I wish you joy. Thanks again for being your authentic self. ?

    • Kelly July 23, 2017 / 6:47 pm

      Hi Mary, you have a great attitude and I’m so grateful for you chiming in. And AMEN to small victories. Too often we aim too big and get frustrated and quit. I believe in small and big goals — getting out of bed – yay! So conquered that, then what. That’s a great way to look at it – baby steps until the bigger goal is reached. The funny thing about life though is that the goal is always changing. But then again – that’s part of the great adventure of it, right? Thanks again for your comment. I’m so thankful to have a community of women reading and sharing!

  3. Julia
    June 25, 2017 / 10:11 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this Kelly. I was also drawn to your blog for your real ness and authentic personality- I saw one Instagram video and was hooked! Your pretty blog photos are just icing on the cake. Thank you, thank you for helping us remember what is really important in life. I too suffer from depression (postpartum), and really find it refreshing when others share their experiences. I am a firm believer of ‘better living through chemistry’ and also take some meds ?
    Thank you!
    Julia

    • Kelly July 23, 2017 / 6:45 pm

      Julia, thank you so much. For me, I can’t stand the presentation that women should have it all together. No one does, so can we all just relax and realize we are all dealing with something? I’m so grateful for the listening ears my blog has reached. And your comment “better living through chemistry” makes me laugh. God bless science. It makes life so much better! Thanks for your comment.

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